The older we get, the more we learn. Life is a series of lessons, sometimes easy, sometimes hard.
When I was younger, I was a hard knock lesson learner. I knew better than anyone older than me, and my experiences were going to be different. (insert laugh)
As I’ve gotten older and hopefully a little wiser, I am learning to let go. I’m learning to listen to my intuition more and trust my gut. I guess you could say I got tired of beating my head against the proverbial brick wall.
This makes it harder for my circle to comprehend but I trust, as they mature, they will follow suit.
I have learned change can be hard. However, if we keep an open mind, we soon realize change is inevitable and most of the time, it ends up being what we needed. For anyone who has read the book, “Who Moved My Cheese?” by the late author Spencer Johnson, a fable about how to cope positively with change, you’ll know what I mean. WMMC is a fable about four characters who live in a maze and they all love cheese. When the cheese disappears, Scurry and Sniff (two little people) enthusiastically head out into the maze to find new cheese. On the other hand Hem and Haw (mice) feel betrayed and complain. They waste their time and energy hoping the old cheese will return. Haw realizes the old cheese won’t return so he sets out into the maze in search for new cheese. He writes what he learns on the walls hoping that Hem will follow him. Eventually he discovers new cheese and sees that Scurry and Sniff were already there. Cheese is a metaphor for what you want to have in life. It could be a good job, loving relationship, money or health. The very core message of the book is this: things constantly change so we must adapt. The quicker we adapt to a change the more satisfied we’ll be with life.
It was a required read when I was working on a project for the State of California and I quickly learned prior to the end of that contracted project, when I was diagnosed with breast cancer, how much this book helped me get through everything I had to do to save my life. If you haven’t read it, I suggest you do. It still helps me today.
It has helped me get through all my family issues I’ve had to deal with these last few years. It has kept me sane and even though the move to CO depressed me, I pushed through it because my “cheese” was my husband whom I love with all my heart. I was there because that is where he thought he wanted to be until his “cheese” moved! Luckily, we were gnawing on the same piece and when it moved, we both found it in GA!!
My step son’s cheese moved this past weekend and he finds himself now living with his sister. My only hope is he doesn’t keep gnawing on that cheese when it grows old and moldy. I hope he keeps his options open and moves through the maze of life following different brands of cheeses. Time will tell.
Life is not only a series of lessons but it’s also a series of changes. The sooner we learn from our mistakes (life lessons) and the sooner we embrace change, the happier we will ultimately be. Don’t lie on your death bed filled with regrets, leave this world knowing you did the very best with what God gave you.